You Must Take Responsibility for the Image You Put Forth

I tuned into the Tom Joyner Morning Show yesterday, just at the point where he was about to interview Karrine Steffans, you know- Supahead.

Well, she repulses me, so I tuned into another station.

I'm listening to them this morning, and they begin off their day with cracking on her, and I wonder what happened. So, they replay the interview, or dare I say, the attempted interview from the day before. She began the interview talking about how great her life was. That she was living in Beverly Hills, and engaged to be married. The men were surprised that she was engaged.
Soon into the interview J.Anthony Brown asks her if she has a count of how many men she's been with. She tells him that's a tacky question, and he persists, which causes her to hang up on Tom Joyner.

I had to laugh myself at the ridiculousness of her hanging up on Tom Joyner.

A few minutes later, Tom went to open phones, where one of the callers told them that they were right in asking the question, and then told them....

J- You're going down as a great comedian.
Tom's going to go down as a great DJ.

And J.Anthony Brown took the lead from the caller and said that Supahead was going down in a few minutes.

The whole studio got a chuckle at that.

Later on, I happened to turn on the show and he had another regular on, called some sort of comic, and their entire routine today was about her. He commented on her getting married, and this would be the first party where the bride would be featured at the bachelor party. Or, that when the preacher says ' you may kiss your bride', the groom would be better off shaking hands. Then he went into a routine about what would be her favorite movies (Jaws, Blow, etc.)

As I listened, I could hear the audience laughing, but I couldn't. I just thought what they were saying was mean. Yet, I couldn't argue against it, because, after all, this was a woman whose claim to fame was not one, but two tell all books about the famous men that she had serviced.

After all, SHE gave herself the name of Supahead. Didn't she think that there would be ramifications about that? Have we, as a society, come to the point where a woman like this would actually be considered BRIDE material by a man?

When you put all your business out in the street like that, and expose yourself to be concubine for whatever rich man came your way, why did she think that she deserved to be treated with any sort of respect? Men were treating her the way that she had treated herself. And, not only did she treat herself that way, but she had no problem telling the world about her doing it, in TWO BOOKS. How can she think that she was supposed to get any respect. It's not like she was Maya Angelou, Nikki Giovanni or any other Black writer. She was going to be on the show because she was discussing another tell-all book of famous men she had serviced. She presents herself to the world as a whore and then wonders why she's treated as such? Why, because she put her whorish exploits down on paper? Was that supposed to clean them up and make them not as disgusting as they were?

While I was uncomfortable listening to Joyner's show this morning, I'm not going to blame him. He didn't put the material out there, and in his cruelty, he called her on the ridiculousness of her actually thinking that someone was supposed to take her seriously.

What upsets me is that this woman is put forth as anything BUT the image of a Black woman YOU NEVER WANT TO BE. Yet, why am I worried that THAT lesson goes over the heads of some of our young women?